“Never judge a book by its cover”That’s how the saying goes, right?
Well, this is half true – in fact, when first meeting someone it’s completely OK to guess some things here and there, but how’s this related to your success? let’s take a look.
Thing is, the first impression you have on someone hugely impacts how they’re going to perceive you afterwards. Let’s take the example of a business meeting: If you made sure to leave a good impression beforehand, you can be sure that the rest of the meeting will go much smoother than it would’ve gone if you hadn’t taken that “countermeasure”.
The reason is because your appearance says A LOT about you.
- How do you carry yourself?: How’s your posture, straight and confident, or weak and twitchy? do you walk like you mean it, or are you crawling like a worm? is your head high and your eyes full of fire, or you always keep your head down?
- The way you speak: Sounding confident when speaking it’s key. If you don’t believe in what you’re saying, how are others supposed to take you seriously? when you talk it feels like you’re whispering? welp, don’t do that – make yourself heard! now, don’t go screaming because it’s bad manners and it’s unsightly – keep a constant and pleasant tone. Don’t stutter while talking, being fluent and slick gives you more credibility and overall it’s nice and soothing to hear someone who can talk.
- Your Self esteem: Do you take yourself too seriously like you’re some kind of deity, or make a fool out of yourself whenever the chance is presented to you? DON’T. You must inspire admiration while being able to laugh at yourself from time to time. Remember, if you don’t respect yourself others won’t follow suit.
- How you dress yourself: Of course, dressing like some kind of bum won’t cut it. Again, if you want others to love you as much as you do – you have to make the effort to make them see how much you love yourself. Dress to impress! that doesn’t mean you have to wear tailored suits every day and pay hundreds of dollars for your clothes. Of course you can play the cheap card, it doesn’t matter if your shoes are worth 1000$ or 5$ – you can impress even if you don’t have money for fancy stuff. Be sure to wear clean and fresh clothes with no wrinkles – groom yourself if you’re a man, cut your hair and keep up good personal hygiene! it’ll make you stand out from others.
What about what’s inside though? 😦
Of course, in the end it doesn’t matter if outside you’re a “looker” and inside you’re empty as the pot i used to make homemade curry last night.
Being a wholesome human being (of course) comes before all of this – having an identity, values you treasure and things you’ll stand up for, what i want you to understand is that…
sometimes in life a good impression can make a huge difference in the outcome of your success, because people are inherently looking for all these little traits that define a great individual you would do business or start some sort of relationship with.