The thought that relationships are being somewhat disrupted- be it by society’s “new” norms, by paranoid thoughts or by even nothingness has been knocking on the doors of my mind. Because it seems that NOBODY is able to give without expecting something in return. And why would they, right? we only think of our own gain – truly, we are selfish creatures now more than ever.
Lately i’ve been seing on the web, and in my everyday life, that always more standards are being enforced on males and females when it comes to relationships (romantic and not)- or should i say rules, ways to act to gain whatever you need from the other person.
“Act like this so he will miss you, act like that so that she will give you a blowjob, say that thing so the others in the group will validate you” And so on. I honestly find all of this pathetic.
This is basically how you annihilate your personality and close yourself off from any TRUE bond.
Why? because you’re no longer trying to form a fucking connection with that individual, instead you’re looking to GAIN something from them- don’t get me wrong, it’s not inherently bad to gain something from a relationship- but when ALL THAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR is to gain, then i think there’s something out of place in the way we think of connections with others. You’re not acting like yourself anymore, you are just wearing a mask so that you are able to manipulate someone else in getting you the things you need, that’s why most relationships are short lived nowadays- do you think this approach can work long-term with another human being? HELL NO.
And while we can keep being scared because of our past traumas and bad experiences we must understand that the only way to stop shallowness from seeping into our society is to hold onto meaningful values (that are oh-so badly seen) that have been around for centuries and actually open ourselves to others while being SELFLESS! that’s the only way to let your unique character shine through all of this indifference we have sadly being accustomed to. Playing games with each other needs to go out of fashion.
And that is, in my opinion, the only way to a real connected world.