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Only you know what is best for Yourself: The reason of holiday depression

As we’re approaching the holidays, a lot of people might go into the “holiday depression” mode. I know this because in the past i experienced it, too. The feeling of not feeling enough, thoughts along these lines: “Oh great, another year is ending and i still haven’t accomplished a fucking thing. Why am i even alive?” I get it, i really do.

I can’t give you a quick fix for this, because in order to be able to feel enough, you have to BE enough. And that doesn’t come automatically like some people want you to believe, it’s the hard cold truth, but it is what it is. And the only way you can ever hope to be enough is to put in the work, in whatever area of your life that is in desperate need of it. There is no way around it.

But that doesn’t mean that any kind of work will do the trick, you have to do the work that YOU think can help you. I’m saying this because maybe, like myself, you come from a very big family where things were forced on you so that you wouldn’t “bring shame” and things like that. And even though they might hammer those things on you without (or with) a bad intention, since that’s how it worked for them they think it’ll work for you, too. They genuinely want to help.

Unfortunately you are not them, and even though going your own way might bring temporary discord and discomfort among you-i can promise that everything will feel so much better afterwards. But you have to find the will to stand up for yourself.

ATTENTION though:

Ultimately, even if that’s the case, you cannot shift the blame on others. So if you really hate your situation and hate this gnawing feeling of being useless weighing on your chest, you have to take responsibility for it and stop avoiding working on yourself, because that is the real issue. And feeling bad about this will not help you in any way, feeling sad during these times will only hinder you, the only thing to do is to accept what your current situation is, and-with a smile- PRESS ONWARD.

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