As you probably know, life is already hard by itself, you surely don’t need a bunch of people who do not serve any purpose and that instead complicate it even further,
That’s how you discern bad people from the good ones:
1) THEY CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR LIFE, AND YOU TO THEIRS
I don’t want to make it sound like all relationships should be give-and-take, but …that’s exactly how I want it to sound.
“But V, you’re a materialistic person!”
(And it’s not even give-and-take, but it’s simply what you might call “a true relationship”)
ALL kinds of relationships should be looking to improve with time, a lack of this results in stale, soulless relationships.
You can’t expect to just give OR take.
For a relationship to be successful, a balanced amount of both is what you’re looking for.
For both parties to give and take it’s a must.
It’s what the fertilizer is to the soil.
You can’t expect it to bear fruit if you don’t plant a seed and cultivate it first.
Call me old-fashioned but that’s how true bonds are forged.
You both do SOMETHING to make the other flourish, in this way you let them know with actions, that you really do appreciate their presence in your life.
Words can only go that far.
2) THEY DO NOT BRING TOXICITY .
This is a Huuuge factor.
Very few people in this world can live without bringing others down in any way shape or form.
Toxicity in this case is shown in different ways towards you, these are some of the common traits a toxic person might have:
- Criticism (not the good type, but the one intended to JUST hurt)
- Always create drama for little, trivial things.
- They act as parasites, leeches.
- Act Manipulative.
- Talk behind your back.
- Lies without reason.
Instead they should:
- Root for your success.
- Be happy for you.
- Give you useful & constructive criticism.
- Solve problems you’re both facing with you.
- Act as teammates.
- Tell you the truth, even if painful.
- Stand beside you when shit hits the fan (huge thing)
- Behave with honor & integrity.
- Respect you.
- Not be cowards.
3) THEY FOLLOW UP ON THEIR WORD.
This is a mark of a truly great individual if you ask me, because in this day and age words are slowly but surely losing their meaning.
A person who keeps their promises and is faithful to his\her words it’s rare and a sight to behold.
It means that you usually can trust that person with something because you know he\she’ll deliver on their words, and that what comes from their mouths it’s actually VALUABLE and concrete.
It’s someone you can and should have besides you because in this life made up of uncertainties, an accountable person sheds a hopeful light in a sea that’s void of values and filled with nothingness.
Do you think i missed something?
WELL, what are you waiting for, drop your thoughts in the comment!