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How To Smash Through Your Mental & Physical Strength Barriers: The Proven Way

Whether we’re talking about physical appliable pure body strength or even the mental kind, the way to attain it remains the same and ALWAYS work. If you don’t see improvements after staying true to “the way” it just means that you’re doing something wrong or you’re not trying hard enough, period.

What’s “the way” though?

Well, now I don’t want to sound like a Mandalorian but let me show you, my personal way to attain colossal strength BWAHAHA

Let’s stop with the jokes and begin with…

Gauging Your Current Limits

Having a set goal, a milestone to which you can refer to when talking about strength, can greatly aid into making the process smoother. That’s why you need to know to what extent you can push your own body & mind without causing any (permanent) damage.

In this way you’ll be able to give it your all, KNOWING that you’re not resting on laurels- and as a byproduct keeping everything challenging almost to the point of exhaustion, both psychological and physical.

Example time.

Physical realm: One of the things you could do here to test your limits is to challenge your body until you’re basically on the brink of collapse. This will trigger a response which consists in muscle growth, but this is not a secret, bodybuilders have been known to do this since the age of time. An example is to be training to failure for hypertrophy.

So no matter where you are in your fitness journey, you’ll SEE progress (i.e. take squats until complete failure)

But this was an example, because by doing this you can’t actually gauge your limits completely, and it’s not an optimal (but still incredibly viable) way to build every aspect of physical strength either. This will need to include a critical thinking factor to understand where you’re at right now.

Let me show you how.

You can’t do even a single pullup? -> Strengthen your back and upper body by doing less demanding exercises WHILE STILL CHALLENGING YOURSELF TO THE UTMOST.

Can’t do even a single pushup? -> Do as many knee pushups as you can, and work your way towards the full version.

Your diet sucks? -> Change it by slowly implementing more healthy foods in your diet if you can’t “handle” all at once.

Can you see the pattern here?

What all these things have in common is one key thing:

They’re problems that can be solved.

And as such, like I’ve shown you, there’s always something you CAN do so you can advance to the next step.

The subtle Art of Fragmentation

So once you’ve recognized where you’re at with your physical strength you will need to formulate a plan, a series of steps you can take to ADAPT to your current limits, in a way that you will eventually be able to reach your next “sets of limits”.

What l want you to apply to this process is the subtle art of “fragmentation” where you basically break down what is needed from you in order to grow stronger into manageable chunks and tasks.

What, do you really think that you will grow stronger overnight because you’re training “just” your upper body? Think again, it is not JUST the upper body that is being trained (arms, shoulders, chest) these are just the major muscles.

Have you forgotten about the smaller, auxiliary muscles that help you through the motions? I figured so, they get stronger as well but you just don’t see it. You take them for granted but they’re actually being developed as well, and without them you wouldn’t be able to perform your exercises to the best.

See? another pattern here.

What I’m saying is that you cannot leave anything to chance, when there are so many details for you to take into consideration. Because it’s not just “YOU” that is getting stronger, it’s ALL OF YOU.

That’s why a scattered approach will not work. Focus on a few things at a time instead:

  • Number of reps you can manage.
  • Correct form.
  • Range of motion.
  • Heavy loads.
  • Flexiblity.
  • Explosiveness.
  • Stamina.

These are just some examples you can tap into to take ideas and inspiration, but you get what I’m saying.

Strength IS NOT LINEAR, there are multiple facets of it, that needs to be trained and analyzed to your specific needs and current limitations. Be smart about it.

Emotional\Psychological Realm: 

Everything I’ve talked about of physical strength can of course be applied to this side of the spectrum as well.

The same repetitive, detail-oriented component works just as fine when you’re talking about mental toughness, as long as you apply it.

Afraid or anxious about (big) social interactions? -> Talk to 1 person a day (outside of your comfort zone) that is SURE to make you anxious, I don’t know, a hot girl for example.

You let your rage take over you easily? -> Be in a position in which you can “taste” small bits of rage without actually getting out of control, almost like poison immunity in which a person is constantly exposed to small amount of toxins so that his body will gradually develop the antibodies needed to contrast the toxin.

The goal here is NOT poisoning yourself during the process though, that’s harmful.

Instead, is to be able to practice in a SAFE environment to the cusp of said limit. You’ll be incredibly uncomfortable, and you’ll take hard blows, but they’ll be lightly softened so you can be ready for the real thing.

And your body and mind will slowly adapt, since humans are ADAPTING MACHINES.

Breaking Your Limits

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This should be the last item on your list, since it’s one of the things you’ll face ONLY in “the end” process, close to mastery of strength.

Unlike some people that depict this in a romantic way: *Put inspirational quote about limits & motivation here* , learning to actually break your limits is real nasty work and it’s usually not what you think it is…but this is a topic for another time.

What you need to know today about this, in a way you can exploit it to your advantage, is that you can use the “limit” excuse, to keep probing and extending your overall emotional\physical strength container. And that is because in this journey you’ll be nowhere near to even be touching your limits.

So you can use this, again, as an excuse to keep that challenge (whether emotional or physical) that I was talking about, always grueling.

You see, limits are 99% of the time self-imposed. So you’re not really “breaking your limits” how it is commonly intended, you’re merely removing shackles you had on.

Breaking limits involves EVOLUTION, not casting away weights that you no longer need, which is just liberation. They’re 2 different paths you’ll eventually take.

There is just SO much to talk about strength, plateaus and how to overcome them, but I hope that with this article you’ve got that faint hint I was trying to subconsciously send to you.

 

If you’d like me to expand more on something specific you’ve seen here or on something similar, or this has helped you in any way, drop me a comment and share this post with your friends.

 

Photo by Shazia Mirza on Unsplash

 

Their Perception of You

Today I’ve stumbled upon a tweet that gave me the idea of sharing this thought with you, it’s not a topic which I discuss much, but it falls in the same category of my topics anyway.

So fuck it.

Have you ever felt that you didn’t care about what others thought, at first, about you?

But suddenly, at some point…you started questioning whether people liked you or not? whether the one who they’re talking about behind your back is you after all?

This happens for a multitude of reasons, in a circle of friends as example, maybe you started to like their company and you’re concerned about how they feel about you.

Maybe you are not the most “open” of individuals when it comes to your feelings and this made you question if you actually made a genuine connection with them.

Or maybe you’re just a damn snitch.

Whatever the case might be, it’s not always their fault like it’s not always yours.

But Perception is something that CAN be manipulated and shaped, when you first start to know someone. The first impression others have of you, after all, is something you can control, and that’s why you should take it into consideration.

The thing is that a lot of people when it comes to their first impression act in two different, distinct ways:

  1. They put on a facade.
  2. They’re actually themselves.

You usually don’t want to go for the first one if you’re trying to build a genuine connection. Because if you’re putting on a Mask and later on can’t be consistent with what you first gave others…that is going to result in people NOT trusting you.

Being yourself instead can go both ways. Either they like you for who you are, or they don’t.

If they know who you are from the start, uncertainties and bad feelings between each other are not AS important.

What if you’re not very direct, and can’t express yourself with people instead? THAT is when problems with their Perception arise.

You’ll be categorized as weird, because you haven’t made your position very clear, and this might tick off a lot of people. Mistaking your lack of social skills\interaction with an “air of superiority”. This can lead to awful social consequences, especially in a group you’re forced to be in (school, work, ecc..).

Perception is set in stone. Once you give off a certain vibe, you can hardly change it later on.

That’s why I believe that the “Don’t Care what others think” mindset is a flawed one. Sure, you shouldn’t concern yourself with their thoughts and you should go your own way, but ignoring COMPLETELY how others perceive you could have disastrous consequences and it’s not very smart.

Navigating a smoothER sea is better than sailing a stormy one, so don’t do yourself a disservice since this could affect your “inner path” as well, not just how others see you.

That’s all. I hope this helped you in some way. If it did, share it with your friends. You’ll be doing me a solid.
Take care.

Vengeance Is Not So Bad After All, Here’s Why!

As I’ve expressed online and in real-life multiple times, I don’t like the idea of letting one do harm to you while stepping on yourself like a CARPET.

And while I think that vengeance can break you if misused, it’s not inherently bad as some might think.

So…

Yeah, I AM VENGEFUL. So what?

You think someone can’t be vengeful and kind at the same time? I’m not fond of the policy that the ones that have hurt you should go on about their life, like they haven’t done anything special.

It’s called “Respecting one’s self”

And for EVERYONE who thinks they’re so righteous and holy: You’re the most flawed of all.

YOU are doing yourself a disservice by letting others step on you like you’re NOTHING.

YOU are the kind of people that make me wanna slap my face (but i won’t don’t worry)

Casting vengeance upon puny assholes that have DARED scratch (because if you’re a G they won’t hurt you even if they tried) Your valuable and amazing life, SHOULD BE considered righteous instead.

And this is not about being “weak minded” or having personality issues, as someone would oh-so-LOVE to tell you.

It’s about NOT BEING A CARPET.

THE REASON WHY YOUR LIFE IS AT A STALEMATE

So you think you have it all figured out huh? then explain to me why your life is not vibrant and brimming with colors and excitement, instead it’s all bleak and flavorless? don’t have the answer? don’t worry, I’ll give it to you – it’s because you’re frozen…

frozen by FEAR.

But don’t get me wrong, I was too. It’s not like I’m some kind of magical creature that knows everything and has the solution to all your problems. I’m not special – I’m a human being just like you, the only thing that is different and that I overcame that fear.

The Fear of change,

The Fear of loving again after being hurt,

The Fear of failure,

The Fear of success,

The Fear of being trapped in an endless abyss with all my Fears.

But YOU can change that.

Just like I did, you just need to acknowledge that Fear, don’t try and hide it from yourself and others, DON’T run from it, whatever that is – otherwise it will stick to you and will keep on getting stronger and stronger IT WILL DRAIN YOU!, the sooner you take action to face that fear, the sooner you will be free from a burden that held you back from manifesting your true potential in every area of your life.

Want to know how to?

Here’s the trick:

  • Step out of your bubble, your comfort zone, that is where you will stack up your fears and worries, leave it and see things from another perspective.
  • Afraid of social interactions? Go out and meet people.
  • Afraid of failure? Keep trying, keep failing.
  • Afraid of living a life that’s not yours? Leave it behind along with everything that you don’t need.
  • Afraid of not being good enough? BE good enough.

Now, what is that all these things have in common?

Exactly… ACTION.

If you ACT you don’t have time to think about fear, because you’re moving forward, because you’re going for the throat and by extension, if YOU MOVE, if YOU DO what you’re saying you’re going to do, fear can’t keep up with you and cast its shadow upon you.

It’s your choice, a simple one,

Think about it, what if you just did whatever you’re afraid of?

Your life will change dramatically,

But you have to do it, switch your brain and emotions off and dive in.

What happened? Exactly, you’re still alive at the end of it, and now you have conquered your fears.

“Don’t fear failure. Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail.”
-Bruce Lee

*Art by Kevmesser from deviantart.com*